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Give your mom a call today if you can’t visit. I know many cannot do so for various reasons.

I’ve used this photo before. I like it. It’s not the first of my mom and me, but I like this one. The picture was taken in 1956 before regular color photography existed for ordinary people. I understand that back then, some people painted photos. 

Both of our birthdays are in September, so she decided to have a birthday photo made of us. I was four, and my mom was 22 when it was taken. 

Earlier, I posted a rather sad video. A young mom is singing karaoke with her young children. She jokes she is a rockstar. As time goes on, her kids develop other interests. I’ll link it below. 

Mom tries to stay involved, but her children always have something else to do. She doesn’t give up, but the video cuts to a cemetery scene. Mom has died. The children, adults now, are sitting in their childhood home. The daughter sees and picks up the old karaoke mic. Looking at it, through tears, she tells her brother, “She was our rockstar.” They hug each other.

At that point in the video, a young man speaks to a mother’s unconditional love for her children, which is often unappreciated. His message is important. I’ll link it again at the bottom. 

My mom has been gone from my world since 1997. I last spoke to her on Mother’s Day in 1996. That’s 28 years, and I’ve shared my love for her in my heart. I always hope it manifests itself outward. 

Here’s the link on Facebook: 

https://fb.watch/r-LesmqnuL/

VE-DAY: Triumph over despotism. National socialism was destroyed (Some might argue that what we see today represents a resurgence of it through the Left in America).  

VE Day is the day we celebrate Victory in Europe during World War II in 1945.  

Hitler was now dead, and the German High Command signed an unconditional surrender on May 8 in Berlin. We still had to fight in the Pacific; the victory in Europe was still a momentous day and celebrated all around the country. In the Pacific, Japan announced surrender on August 15 and signed the surrender on September 2, 1945.  

We continue to celebrate VE Day as a reminder of the millions of Americans who sacrificed so much to fight the evil Nazi regime and their allies. Like many my age, my dad was over there. He would fly back to the United States on September 14. I guess this could mean he was destined for the Pacific if the fighting had continued.  

Think about the sacrifice. 407,000 (293,000 direct combat)in total deaths and 671,000 wounded—more than one million casualties in 1366 days. 

Remember the conflict and the people who fought hard to free America and the world from tyranny. In this sense, make every day VE Day! Most are gone now. What would they think of the direction of the country today?

As an aside, the September 2nd date mentioned is my mom’s birthday; September 14, the day my dad left for home, is seven years before my birth date. I have to wonder which was more manageable, being in the Army Air Force or raising me.

There are several instances in Ohio law when the consent of a natural parent of a child to be adopted is not necessary. The most common is when the parent of the child to be adopted, after proper service of notice and hearing, the court finds by clear and convincing evidence that the parent has failed without justifiable cause to provide more than de minimis contact with the child OR to provide for the maintenance and support of the child as required by law or judicial decree for a period of at least one year immediately preceding either the filing of the adoption petition or the placement of the minor in the home of the petitioner. 

However, as often seems to be the case in law, the failure to do either is not without exception. If you receive notice your son or daughter is going to be adopted, even if you’ve had no contact or failed to provide support for a period of one year preceding the filing of the adoption petition, you can still contest the adoption to show justifiable cause why you did not do both. If you decide to contest an adoption, it is advisable to have an attorney represent you.

If you want to skim my words, that’s fine, but skip to the last paragraph. Read what a member of the National Guard published in the Akron Beacon Journal at Kent State that day has to say.

I’ve been writing about it for years, and having interviewed many of the participants on both sides, I feel well-versed in the incident. However, the Beacon Journal account contained a couple of new statements to me. Again, take the time to read it. This year, I have already posted with revisions to something I wrote six years ago.

There’s always been a rush to judgment to blame the Guard, which is erroneous. The university won’t let it go, and I’m not suggesting it should. But there needs to be balance. Consider 2020, fifty years later.

The 50th remembrance date was not intended to heal but to reopen wounds, as the choice of speakers, including Jane Fonda, and the committee were highly biased toward those who knew the players. The university was adamant that Fonda would appear. I worked to have her removed, but the university was adamant.

Fonda was to receive a fee of $83,000 to speak. The university that Fonda’s speaking fee is consistent with those of other speakers at KSU and other universities. Except Fonda was not like other speakers. She was despised by many for her activities during the Vietnam War. KSU recognized this, stating, “She is equally open about reconciling with some of her past actions while still maintaining true to her convictions and beliefs.”

The university was referring to a 1972 Fonda made to Vietnam where she was photographed seated on a North Vietnamese anti-aircraft gun clothed as an NVR or VC combatant, smiling and laughing. The photo outraged Americans, earning her the nickname “Hanoi Jane.”

Despite opposition to Fonda’s appearance, KSU said Fonda was a “fitting voice of activism that spans many generations, young and old, and aligns with the pillars and vision of the 50th commemoration.”

During her two-week trip, Fonda spoke frequently on Hanoi Radio. When the Nixon administration later publicized stories of torture of returning POWs, Fonda said that those making such claims were “hypocrites and liars and pawns.” In 1988, she made a non-apology apology, and seventeen years later, she said, 60 Minutes, that she had no regrets.

My opposition was that the program had activists from then and now, and there was no open discussion of the opposing perspective. Ohio Secretary of State, a veteran, was willing. However, the appearance never happened due to the pandemic in 2020. Fonda did receive her speaker’s fee.

Even today, KSU is tying current campus unrest when there is no comparison. When I saw it, I couldn’t believe my old school was making a comparison between then, and what is happening on campuses today, like the student I saw today demanding humanitarian aid from the university. in the form of food and drink unless the policy of the school is dehydration and starvation of protesters.

https://record-courier.com/story/news/2024/05/01/kent-state-university-massacre-ohio-national-guardsman-reflects-1970-anti-war-protests-tragedy/73413249007/?fbclid=IwZXh0bgNhZW0CMTAAAR3NJpZa_TvqN-GBBDMS1R6iqw-7XkTfCCwRFcacAu2EfPjsTcdumojockQ_aem_AYfNDquy1b3kezU-nzs2RBvDe4gSRVOlmePqCuYFlvrOtcVIggNYNHmFcpCMK5daMnTIgSKMYgfQY1gmFtpj5dxc

The thirteen seconds of gunfire changed not only my hometown but much more. Though it has been 51 years now, I remember the day well.

I believe I was the first person in my school to know of the shootings. I was out doing what I did every day around that time. While cutting school to ride around and smoke a couple of cigarettes, the news came over the radio. As to details, there weren’t any. I did know my uncle was there with the National Guard. Later, we learned that one of the people who was fired was from Mantua. I also knew my dad was probably in the area, and he was. He was having lunch, and at least one bullet went over the restaurant where he ate.

The guy I knew from town was a nice, decent guy. I had known him and his family for years. That’s how it is in small towns. His brother had been killed in Nam. I’ve heard some say that’s why he was fired. Completely false. His brother, another young man I knew well, actually better, died about two months later in what would be the last major battle of the war. However, the aftermath would still leave a lasting impact on a small town and the country.

Later, I attended Kent State University, and most of my classes were in the building you can see in the picture. I would later work on the college newspaper located in that building and had the opportunity to interview students and professors there that day. I do have to say that professors defused what happened immediately after.

From interviews and just general knowledge from reading, it still puzzles me why it happened. A protest covered by the First Amendment that turned violent is challenging to reconcile. However, the protest wasn’t peaceful, and not all of the protesters were students. Add in young, tired National Guardsmen who had been patrolling in the interstates during the trucker strike, and I’ve been able to understand the fear factor they must have felt.

I remember a man, Dr. Jerry Lewis, a sociology professor, whom I interviewed extensively. He invited me to attend his class at the site and described it to his students. I listened to what he said, but in my opinion, some of it was wrong. I told him why. It didn’t matter.

There would be another campus shooting 11 days later at Jackson State, killing two and wounding 12. Jackson State was a predominately black college, but few heard of it. I have a relative tell me he had no idea, never having heard of Jackson State, and concluded he had not because of racism. I disagreed and still do. Kent State so dominated the news in the days following May 4; it almost seemed as though nothing else was on the news. So, unless you were paying attention to the news, Jackson State didn’t seem to be on the national radar at the time.

Getting back to Kent State(this is an example of my stream of consciousness where I keep going without any clue where I’m headed), I’ve heard protesters referred to as “dirty hippies,” and the Guard referred to as killers or murderers. After about 50 years, I consider neither point valid.

The shootings at Kent State and Jackson State, for that matter, were tragic events. I can know to an extent how it feels to protest. I did it at Ohio State in 1972, although more as an observer. But I remember the feeling of police charging the crowd with riot batons and seeing students beaten to the ground around me. Not a good feeling.

But then I put myself in the shoes of the Guard on the hill who fired at Kent State and have wondered how I would have reacted-perhaps the same way. There is no way for me to know. It also means there is no way for others to know.

I recall one protest at Ohio State and how the police moved and trapped the crowd at what is known as Mirror Lake, I believe. The students were surrounded, and I anticipated the worst by police converging on the area, which provided no escape. They’d already used batons and nightsticks, so I waited for what I believed to be inevitable. But it didn’t happen. There was restraint, and we were told to disperse. Off we walked in different directions. Police officers were stationed along the streets, nightsticks in the hands of many, but the officers stood at attention.

One officer had a bandaged face. I was unsure why, but I stopped to ask him what happened. He had been hit in the face with a brick the night before by a student. But he was polite and not angry. This wasn’t exactly what I expected.

I’m no longer in a position to evaluate the events of May 4 as far as determining fault. What I mean is I’ve made up my mind. I know there have been changes in how the Guard is deployed, and I’m sure more professionalism, like the police officer I met at Ohio State. What I do know is I hope it never happens again.